Noticing body language, the signals that people send out with their body, can be a very useful social skill to learn. Many people can read them naturally, while others not at all. Then there are those who are notoriously obvious about the intent of the message, and others totally oblivious to any signal given, no matter how flagrant. Fortunately, with a little effort and attention, anyone can learn to read a persons body language, and with enough practice become quite good at it. When you’re conducting your in-person interviews, it is important to pay close attention to how near someone chooses to be to your proximity. The closer they are, the warmer their opinions may be of you, and thus more open to you. Yet when a person ‘keeps their distance,’ the less they’re caring for the situation they’re in, or the person they’re with, and the less likely they’ll be to reveal the whole truth, or be forthright. When you notice this, try moving slightly closer to your client. Do they move slightly further away? When they do, it most likely means they are either not wanting to interact, much less be honest in what they may be telling you. If they don't move back, then they are more receptive and more likely to tell you the truth. Because often, the closer they are to you, the more receptive and comfortable they’ll be to your line of questioning. [It’s also worth noting here that personal space has cultural fluidity; keep in mind that what is considered close in one country, can be far away in another.] Watch the Head A head tilted way over to one side or the other is either a potential sign of sympathy, and if a smile goes along with it while tilting their head, they are merely being playful and possibly flirting. A lowered head however usually indicates they may be hiding something. So take particular note when someone lowers their head for any length of time. [It should also be noted that with some cultures, this as a sign of respect.] Cocked heads mean that they are confused and they may be challenging you, depending on their eye, eyebrow, and mouth gestures. Kind of like a dog slightly cocking their head when you make funny noises at them. Look Into Their Eyes People who keep looking from side-to-side can be nervous, lying, or distracted. However, when a person looks away from the speaker, it very well could be a comfort display or indicate submissiveness. Looking askance generally means the person is distrustful or unconvinced. If your client keeps looking down at the floor, they are probably shy or timid. Some cultures believe that looking at someone in the eyes is a sign of disrespect, so this could explain why someone is avoiding eye contact with you. Pupils also have a tendency to dilate when person is interested. Keep in mind, however, that alcohol and many drugs cause pupils to dilate, including alcohol, cocaine, amphetamines, MDMA, LSD and others. Then There’s the Arms People with crossed arms are closing themselves to social influence. Though some people just cross their arms as a habit, it may indicate that the person is somewhat reserved, uncomfortable with their appearance, or trying to hide something on their shirt. Some individual rest their arms behind their neck or head, fingers interlocked. This simply means that they are open to what is being discussed or just laid back in general. If their hands are on their hips, they might be waiting or impatient. Watch Their Feet A fast tapping, shifting of weight, laughing, or movement of the foot will most often mean that the person is impatient, excited, nervous, scared, or intimidated. Note though that some people with ADHD will constantly jiggle their legs. It doesn't mean anything, it's entirely subconscious and, while eccentric, it cannot be stopped. If the person is sitting, feet crossed at the ankles means they're generally at ease. If while standing, a person seems to always keep their feet very close together, it probably means they are trying to be "proper" in some way. Observing the Witnesses Reading Their Body Language For whatever reasons, good or bad, the act of lying is still not a good character trait to have in a person. Which blows their credibility out of the water, and potentially yours if you’re not careful. This type of client should be avoided at all cost and must not be tolerated. Here are useful tips to learn how to detect with body language if your client is intentionally lying to you. Remember to observe body language and facial expressions together. Watch the body movements closely, and listen to their voice when you suspect they’re lying. Most notable signs are the following: The voice is usually higher in pitch than the normal pitch the person has. The body becomes stiff and face becomes slightly pale. The lips become pale and thinner. Tightness around the lips is observed. Nostrils open wider and breathing may become heavier. There is no direct eye contact; the person may look down or look somewhere else. The hands are turned away from you, closed or start to perspire, or kept inside pockets. The person becomes restless by touching his face, scratching of nose and ears. Clients who may be lying will often take more time to answer a question, while they go over their response in their head, and may even clear their throat and voice before answering it. Their facial expressions will often not match what is said, nor do their hand movements, as if not knowing where or how to place them comfortably. The feet and/or body may also tend to give them away, by getting tense or frigid, as they shift balance from side-to-side. Maybe even placing their hands into their pockets or hold them clutched together across the midway of their stomach. The emotions being expressed here are often a delay tactic cause by confused. The emotions and gestures don't seem to jive with one another. The client will often follow up with more expressions of frowning, deep creases between the eyebrows and mouth movements (often attempting a limited faked emotion). A good example would be smiling which would normally show in the eyes, the cheeks or the entire face; instead of just being limited to around their lips. Sometimes the client who is lying will become defensive. There may be a lot of things said or additional information revealed that is not really important, but the person will include this to avoid being caught in perpetuating a fraud, hoax, or outright lie. More often than not, liars will speak in a monotone voice and more softly than normal, even to the point being garbled. They’ll seem rattled as they talk. To test if your client is already lying directly to you, pretend to change the conversation quickly to another topic. If they quickly follows suit, and seem more relaxed, odds are they’re guilty. Normally, a person who is not lying will get confused if a change of subject happens quickly in the middle of a normal conversation. Also watch for signs of sarcasm or sudden dry humor as these are often signs that a lying person will use to avoid getting caught. Be on the alert for insinuations rather than direct statements. Watch out for phrases like "Believe me" or "to tell you the truth" as these tend to be deceptive phrases only. Tips "It's easy to spot a confident client; they will make prolonged eye contact and have a strong posture. They may also sit or stand very straight. Long eye contact can also be found in lovers' eyes. However, if your client talks fast or mumbles and isn't clear on what they are saying, they’re most probably lying while stalling for more time, to think it out. Often a good liar will not telling the whole truth, are vague, and will omit important information. [However be be aware that some people do actually mumble when they talk that are not being deceptive.] Watch their face; muscles will often give off quick involuntary, and sometimes subconscious, twitches. Especially when something happens that may irritate, excite, or amuse them. Keep in mind that each person has their own unique body language called baseline behaviors. And when observing other peoples body language, be subtle about it, but pay special attention to the changes in their body language rather than the body language itself. Such as when a person looks up at the sky, or to the sides, they may be actually thinking about something important, and not lying. REMEMBER – Not to judge a person solely by their body language, listen to what they’re saying, and how they’re saying it. 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